If you are about dating a Vietnamese lady anywhere in the part of the world and you have your doubt, stop doubting and go for it. I will be sharing some man to man talks with you and also debunk some rumour you have heard or something someone had when dating a Vietnamese lady.
Some reason you will love dating/marrying a Vietnamese lady are :
Loyalty : One of the problems people encounter in their marriage is loyalty. Outside of Vietnam, a lot of people had divorced because they could not trust whoever they had given their love to. A lot of culture had defined dating as a way to get laid anytime, and marriage is about getting laid, having kids and walking out of it when you are bored of each other.
A lot of men had noticed this in other countries, and most of relationship problems comes from spouses that are not loyal.
Definition of loyalty
giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution.
synonyms:faithful, true, true-hearted, tried and true, true-blue, devoted;
The above bolded words are the definition of a typical Vietnamese lady. These are also the reasons while you will see a lot of foreigners (Americans, Australians, Others)getting married to these ladies. The difference is completely clear.
A lot of foreign ladies will tell you that Vietnamese girls are not open-minded, but the truth is, these are the type of girls we all wanted all this time, and they are in Vietnam. We don't want a lady that believes virginity is a curse and should be gone when you 16 and dating 2 friends is normal and it is because you look beautiful.
I had seen a lady that had a breakup with his boyfriend on Skype and to cool off the breakup, he was humping on my friend, 5 hours later. If a Vietnamese girl leaves you, she is still trying to see how to make it work after a month and all these times crying.
I am not saying that all the ladies are 100% loyal, but when you are good, you meet good people, at least i have met more than 95% loyal ladies. If you continue this post, i will tell you why you keep meeting the wrong ones too.
Independent And Supportive: There is a myth that a Vietnamese girl will date you for your money.The truth is that Vietnamese girls are self-dependent and don't need how much you earn unless you choose to tell them. A lot of working class ladies just want someone who is cool, nice and you should be an independent guy.
Some men out there will tell you that the girls need your money and you must be careful. This is a wrong allegation and such person is probably a moron. When you decided to show a lady you met in a bar a stash of cash and she follows you to spend the cash, i guess that is a wise thing to do.
A wise man once told me:
When you meet a foolish man who does not value what he has got, it's better you enrich yourself, because the wise man won't give you that advantage
So when some old men that believed they had failed in their country meet a lady with a backless shirt, they believe they can continue the same lifestyle that failed them in their country and get the lady, she played smart and they starts crying and cursing.
So when some old men that believed they had failed in their country meet a lady with a backless shirt, they believe they can continue the same lifestyle that failed them in their country and get the lady, she played smart and they starts crying and cursing.
If you meet a classy, independent working class Vietnamese. I can tell you that she will take care of herself and also will support you if you are a visionary person. Vietnamese girls are not gold-diggers, but if you show a low-class lady a pile of gold, she will dig it...Ohhh yeah, i am a gold digger too...Show me your gold dude.
Taking Care Of Your Family: If you are lucky enough to date a girl not from the city or spend few years abroad and brainwashed, Vietnamese ladies will take care of your immediate family and not the other way round as propagated.
I have heard a lot of foreigners in bar talking about marrying a Vietnamese girl requires you to marry the family, This is not true at least from my experience. If you want to help, that is great, she will not make it a priority or makes you feel you should do that. Don't insult the family value of a the Vietnamese lady. They love and cherish their family and will stay with them during their difficult period.
Though i have heard some people on expat forum saying the family wanted them to do this or that, but like i once said, if you are a bad person that felt you can hide your immorality in Vietnam, Karma will travel with you all the way and will lead you to someone who will make your life a hell. But Vietnamese lady are not like this if you date the right person.
The Vietnamese family will support their child's family anyway they can and make sure you have a good wedding, so if they need help and you can do it, it is a normal thing to help. Nobody will judge you on not helping, but your wife will sure stand by her family when they need her.
The 100% truth is when a Vietnamese lady marry you, they take good care of their husband family, if your parents are old and you marry a Vietnamese lady. Sack your nurse the next day, she will fit in like they are her parents. Just call your nurse for prescription. So they marry you and your own family. But like i said if you are wayward, Karma is sweet.
Trust-Worthy : Vietnamese girls are trust-worthy. You can go anywhere you want to go. They will be waiting for you when you are back. They will always say the truth, please don't doubt her. The truth is real in Vietnam. You don't need to snoop around her phone or what she is doing. She knows she is married and will not want to do anything that will hurt your feelings. Tell her what you like or don't like. She will definitely comply
Hey, chill out, Vietnamese girls are not robot. If you tell her don't do this or that, she might stand up for herself, YES. Most Vietnamese ladies don't like a "I am the boss" kind of man. They will love you, but let them have a say, they are not machines and will prove it if you are turning to a dictator in your relationship.
You don't need a lawyer to spell out your do's and don'ts. They can understand you.
Domestic Goddess: If you want a lady that will serve you delicious and home-made meals. Go for a Vietnamese. Your Mcdonald, KFC and lotteria days are getting over. You will go there at rare occasions and they are not supplement for dinner food. A lot of Vietnamese girls will tell you they are bad cooks. Wait for it, Wait for it. It is not true. They just don't want you to expect a Gordon Ramsay type of meal, but you can eat and be happy you have a lovely meal.
Well maybe my palate is not that strong, but when the few ones i met complains about being a bad cook, i end up eating everything and wait for her next invitation. They also have a lot of hand skills that they can do. Some can knit, sew or do little businesses aside from their day's job.
Some will learn new things and try them out to support themselves. And a lot of them will make your place neat as they hate being look down as dirty.
If these features appeal to you as a man to get a woman, Vietnam should be your next destination, don't read up things some clowns write after spending 2 days or just 1 week in Vietnam.
Well Cultured/Manners : I can confirm that Vietnamese women are one of the most highly cultured people in the world (Take that to the bank). That is why you will see a lot of people saying they are too traditional. You might get a lot of culture shock with the ladies when you are here.
Don't expect the way you are treated back home. This is completely different. They treat you like kings, they want to know how you doing at least at most hours. They want to know if you had lunch or dinner. And even though they might have bad eggs, but the amount of the well-mannered women in Vietnam is more than the bad eggs.
Like i said before, i had met a lot of the well cultured ladies, might makes you want to go crazy, but after a while, it just becomes part of you.
Most Beautiful Girl In South East Asia: Hey look, that lady looks beautiful, i have seen a lot of Vietnamese girls, and i think they are beautiful than most ladies i have met around the SEA region, a friend of mine and also a pretty lady confirms this.
I can also tell you that you have a lot of pretty Vietnamese girls than you have in most of Asia, maybe it's because of their stature or the body composure or maybe the smile. They are flawlessly beautiful (Take that to the bank too). Actually a lot of ladies from foreign countries also admire their beauty. Either slim or little big, you still have a very beautiful and lovely Vietnamese lady...
Oh, have you heard a Vietnamese lady on the phone. I mean the ladies at offices frontdesk? Try a prank call and see for yourself, it totally melts your heart...The first word is "Yallo" ....
Note : This post about the Vietnamese lady anywhere in Vietnam. I won't approve this post for any Vietnamese that had stayed 10 years abroad.But if you pick on one here...Welcome to a long lasting, peaceful and true definition of love and marriage.
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