Seven days ago, we posted an article of a Vietnamese lady that was accused of marrying two foreigners at a time. The news was posted on Hanoi Massive, a Facebook group used by expats in the the Hanoi area, and the husband allegedly said that the wife married to another foreigner while he was away on a trip.
If you missed the story, please go to this link before you continue this article: How A Vietnamese Lady Stayed Married To 2 Men And Ripped Off English Teachers In Hanoi
Today, the accused lady, Hanh Nguyen had written us an email, detailing her side of what happened in their marriage, and also said he was never married to Steven properly. She had only taken the photos by Steven so as to show his employee and be able to defend himself when he is asked about Visa.
Steven John (L) accused Hanh Nguyen(R) of stealing from him, and marrying a new man while they were still married
The lady said hat Sten never had Visa for more than 3 years, and she had to be of help to him, but at the end, he couldn't take his angry nature and jealousy.
The below text is from the accused lady, and it was edited to make it readable for our readers...
Hello Sir/madam
I heard that my ex- boyfriend tried contacting you and told you things about me. I understand why he did that. Steven never had visa for 3 years and 5 months while he was in Vietnam, and he could not go back to England, and the only way for him to move back was for me to break up with him. I am geting scared when we are together.
When Steven came to Vietnam 3 years ago, he was homeless back in England and he had no where to go back to. I told him to stay with me in Vietnam, and I will earn money to look after him, because at that time, he had no job.
I later got him a job as an English teacher, and he was earning more money than I was making, that was when he changed totally. He was acting bossy at home, and he won't allow anyone near me, or get too close to me, including my son.
Jealousy dawn on him, and sometimes would get jealous when I decide to sleep in my son's room. He started to control my life like he owns me, but I was only his girlfriend.
All he wanted was sex anytime am home, and he will shout and wax me in the presence of my son. I started seeing him as a man not in love, but a madman in love. When i noticed all this trait, i started to think of ways of letting him go for the sake of my son and my own personal safety.
I had met my husband Steven talked about 2 years ago, and i fell in love wiTh him, though even while i was with my husband, i stayed with Steven. Steven had no job or visa, and he keeps quitting a lot of jobs. I had to go to school managers and help explain to them to let him keep his job.
He gets angry easily, and he still believes real life is like life back in the army. If he communicates with Steven, and you ignored him, or don't reply while he was talking, he will get angry and starts to shout.
When angry, he throws things around. He had broken the furnitures, he cuts all my clothes, broke the TV, he literally destroys anything when angry. What will you do if someone like that lives with you and your 6 years old kid? Would you leave or stay with him?
I tried to stay with him, i know he had nobody in the UK, even his family did not like. Go ahead and ask Steven if anybody cares when he had a problem in his life. He knows that I was married, and we were only seeing how we can go, he accepted me after knowing I had a husband, now he is saying I lied to him. He wanted me to divorce my husband, and when I told him I loved my husband, he became really mad.
He vowed to destroy me if I go ahead not staying with him, and that is what he is currently doing now. He posted many things about me on Public Facebook group in Hanoi. He destroyed my life here. We were never married, we only had some pictures together to look like we did. We did not marry properly, so when i have a new man, i think it is normal
He keeps posting about me, and i think people don't want to see his post anymore because they realise his angry nature. He destroyed my life in Hanoi, and my husband is going to divorce me. I lost everything, but he is not satisfied. He still wants to go ahead and destroy me.
In his mind, i am not good and this is what he keeps telling people. I just think I should tell my side, so it does not go one way.
Thanks and best regards.
Hanh Nguyen
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