You go to weddings, and you see the preacher talking about the good and the bad kind of woman. You go to the Internet, and you see people writing about the kind of women you should date or never marry. But in this article, I felt like I should write about the kind of lady a man should run away from before it ruins such a man.
A lot of musicians have talked about it; a lot of preachers will preach about it; your parents will warn you about them, but how do you identify them. Because in truth, they are out there, you can't just pick up a lady and start a family unless you're hoping for a divorce after few months.
Please Note: This is just my opinion as a man, and I am ready to agree or disagree with you via comments :)
Not A Sister: Dating a nice woman is one of the best things in life, even the holy books say, " he who finds a good woman finds a good thing." . So if your woman or the lady you dating now is not like your sister, you might be in for the wrong lady which means you have found a bad thing. A sister pampers you; she can see through you when you're down and doesn't assume that you will be fine. She can know what is wrong before you say it, because she spends so much time with you. She wants to go to the end of the earth just to make sure you are happy. She will care for you, gives you the best advice and many more. So if she is not like your sister...Uhmmmm.
Nagging : <-----This word right there have broken different homes before now, and it will continue to break homes even your kind of lady nags too much. For a man like me, I will pay anything to make sure I am in a peaceful environment. Peaceful home readers, is priceless like my dad will always tell me.
Now let me be clear. A woman is a woman, #Gofigure. However, a lady who nags will either kill you with hypertension or with worries. Nobody loves nagging...even when a girlfriend nags too much, you just want to pull your hair out of your head, so imagine a family with a parrot kind of lady. Kanye West will say. That is what I don't like. I once read a news online on how a Chinese man falls to his death in a mall because the wife or girlfriend(not so sure) was nagging all through the shopping spree.
Less Care About Your Feelings : A lady that never cares about your feelings, she does not care if you are on the sick bed. Her philosophy is if you want to die, go ahead. She will prefer to go out and party with her other kind of lady or go to the salon to fix her hair before seeing you at the hospital. Try to call your lady and tell her how you want to meet her now and it's so important, she will tell you to go ahead and say it, even if you tell her you need to see her and your life depends on it, she will tell you not to be angry that she needs to go out with friends for some party or go fix up her hair or see some soap opera. Never marry this kind of woman and when you dating them, you need to start seeing Usain Bolt on how to run 100m race because you might need one soon. Your girlfriend/wife must put you first, especially if you both plan on staying together for the rest of your lives.
Doesn't care about your financials :A real woman wants to ask about your financials, especially if you are the man that always goes to the bar and asks everyone to be served cold drinks. A real woman will always check you out and ask while you are spending like you are the Son Of Bill Gate. The other kind of woman will only tell you what a big man you are and how you make her proud spending that much while her friends are watching. If you are with a lady who always goes out with you because of your spending drift. You might need the Usain Bolt class as well, because when you are dried up financially, she will switch gear, and you will be on your own.
Never pay on dates : Ok, call me cheap, that's fine and a friend of mine here on Doy News still argues with me. But I want to write it any ways. A lady whom you are still seeing but knows all the expensive restaurants in town is not a good one to me. When you're dating a lady according to my last article (Why you will remain single).She must always give you the privilege of choosing restaurants especially if she is not paying. Never go on a date with a lady who wants to go on every expensive date when she knows she won't drop a cent. If you are a man that cut your coat according to your cloth, be careful of a lady, who will help you cut undersize or oversize. I have met a lot of ladies like this before, and I have dropped them and probably won't see them again on a date. I am still on my point with my friend here in Doy News Editorial calling me cheap...But this is the word of the elders.
Publicly Disgrace you : Haaaa...Have you ever seen a woman shouting on top of her voice and calling her man names...ouch...I have seen this in malls and parks, and I ask this question. How did he get here? Some ladies are ready to bring down the roof when you annoy them, they will never wait until you get to the car. For a man like me that does not even like a mate talking loud when we close, how would it feel with a lady sounding like "I don't care? I am scared of what my life will become that moment.
A Flirt: We all have that hormone in us that rises when we see a man playing with our woman, and she is smiling it out. The truth is that jealousy is not a state of mind or how mature you are. It is a norm in both male and female. A 6o years-old man will be jealous when someone is flirting with his 55 years-old woman. So it is what it is. If you are not jealous of your man or woman, it is, either she is very ugly, or you don't love her anyway.
So a lady who flirts so much is what you don't want to play with. She will flirt with men and makes you feel she is dating them, even if she is faithful, you will doubt her faithfulness. We all heard about the fight between Solange and Jayz recently. According to report reaching me, some lady at the party was flirting so much with Jay-z that Beyonce had to warn her to please back off. When she would not back off and Jay-z seems to be enjoying the whole show. Solange had to add one to his previous 99 problems (No offence to Jay-z fans, am a fan too).
A lady can be beautiful and be a centre of attraction, but she needs to limit who she flirts with especially when you're dating or when you are around. A flirt can be other men singing her praises, and she is blushing...oooucchh...while you are there, that is an insult. It can be physical touching, and she is responding...No. No No Some ladies flirt so much on Facebook or twitter you will feel they are dating the men flirting with them. So if your woman can't contain the attentions, she gets from men. You should quit, because when men flirt with a lady, they don't just want to flirt; it is only a step 1...I have been there, done that
Not Proud of You/Doubts your love : A lot of girls are not proud of their men they date. A larger percentage of ladies believes that until you put a ring on it, they can't announce you to anyone, including their close friends, because they are scared you will leave, and they will look bad with their friends. A lot of girls have been hurt before now, so they are careful about talking to friends or families about who you are. But, at the same time, this should not be an excuse for a lady not to be confident after some time. If your girl always tells how she won't talk about you for a long time, she might not be 100% into you. When girls love you, no matter what happened, a year after or six months depending on how you make her feelings grow, she will start telling everyone who cares about you.
The social network is also a good form to know if your lady is just playing you, a lady who finds it ok to upload a picture of a man she meets two months after their meeting, and she can use that on profile pics on Facebook , twitter, reddit or everywhere might not be trusting you, which means you should start looking out for a new lady. She must be ready to let the world know the real King, and not uploading different men on her timeline, and keep telling you how lucky you are to have her when you are together. Always use your instint.
Too Many social networks account :With the emerging trend of smart phones and social networks apps and website now, a lot of ladies will always sign up to at least 2-4 social networks. If your girlfriend is constantly receiving beeps from different social network on her phone, like my good friend here say...OH boy, you are single.
A lady should limit her presence on social networks when she is dating unless she is looking for your substitute.
Liars: A good woman must not lie, no matter what will be the consequences. She must always tell you the truth of a situation. This will not only bolster your love affair but your trust in such a lady. A lying lady is a very dangerous lady you don't want to have in your family.
Word of the elders
Anyone who lies conveniently, will kill conveniently.
If you notice your lady lie at every word from her mouth, you need to be careful before a proposal
The Future : A good lady should ask you sometimes what is the plan for the future, where do you want to live your life? Do you want us to buy a house or car first? (A good wife will choose a house over a car anytime). Will you go for your masters program after your degree? How many kids do you want us to have? This and many questions a real wife will ask you. If you date for six months and all, you do is hug, cuddle, go to movies, go to the beach, hiking and laughing...no talks about the future...uhmmm...not a good trait. At least after a year, someone should bring it up, coming from a lady is a stamp and want to commit to you. !!! Marry her Now !!! .
Remember : This is just a man opinion on the kind of lady you should not start a family with, at least help reduce the marriage breakups.
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For Doy News, I am Patrick Wright