Relationship advice

Jealousy is not a bad feeling if you know how to control it. However, when it overwhelms one of the partners, their relationship is under threat. Men’s jealousy and women’s jealousy are different in nature. A man is jealous of his woman suspecting her in infidelity (sex here is the main concern) while a woman is jealous mainly of her man’s emotional connection with other women.

Sometimes jealousy can become an obtrusive idea of one of the partners and have a detrimental effect on a relationship. The relationship can be rescued if the party at fault realizes they need to get rid of their jealousy. gained insight into this problem and now offers you possible ways of overcoming jealousy.

In order to fight down one’s feeling, it’s necessary to know its causes.

1.Exaggerated possessiveness.

In this case, you view your partner as an object or possession. His or her actions are always under your control. Any suspicion makes you angry. If you want to overcome this type of jealousy, you need to realize that your partner is not your property and you are two independent people. He or she is free to act at their own discretion and it’s you who decides whether you have a future or it’s better to break up.

2.Lack of confidence.

Your low self-esteem makes you compare yourself with other rivals (usually alleged ones) and your self-analysis makes you think you’re worse than others. This kind of jealousy is typical of those couples where the jealous partner is not as successful, intelligent, or good-looking as his or her significant other. As a result, the jealous partner starts to think that the other partner will find a more compatible substitute. In order to get rid of this type of jealousy, you need to realize why your partner chose you. If you think there is something you need to improve (get a job, lose weight), do it – it can do the trick.


Usually, this cause is accompanied by mistrusting all people in general. These jealous people don’t believe anyone and count only on themselves. Their total mistrust stems from their childhood trauma. In this case, it’s advisable to seek help from a psychotherapist who will help you fight that global distrust.


In this case, some actions and desires that drive a jealous person are ascribed to his or her partner. The one who is jealous often cheats on the other partner or just wants to but can’t do that, nevertheless. This is how the principle of psychological defence works: it’s not that “I want to cheat on you” but that “You want to cheat on me”. The only way to overcome this kind of jealousy is to admit your desires and not to project them on your partner.

5.Lack of attention.

This type of jealousy emerges when the partners communicate very rarely because one of them often stays late at the office. In this case, you feel that your partner doesn’t care about you. In order to fight this feeling, you should talk to your loved one. Explain the cause of your mistrust to your partner and try to spend more time together.


Not Interested To Hang Out With You: It is ok for your man or woman to spend time with their friends. But when your man/woman keeps giving you excuses about hanging out with his friends, then he/she does with you, then it is a way to let you know your relationship might not be working as you think.

In a relationship, hanging out with each other is one of those things you should always do together, you should be happy to hang out, go to places, talk about each other, what happened during the day and just go close to a nice view and look at the stars together. 


When your lady/guy is finding it uncomfortable hanging out with you, and will prefer staying more with her friends, your relationship is heading to a rock.

Too Busy For A Simple Text/Call: This might sound ridiculous, but a lot of relationships have shifted their calling and texting to different apps online making it easy for the ladies/guy to communicate on the move via smartphones.

But when your man/woman stops calling/texting you because they are busy, you should watch out for the relationship. Viber, Tango, Skype and many other free apps are available for texting/calling for free. Though sometimes, you can be busy with office work, but a second to say "I miss you" will go a long way.

Also a lot of people will not send messages or call when this apps are down, that says a lot about how they care, if you go offline via those apps for 24 hours and your supposed lover did not call you, then your relationship is shaky.

If they keep saying i dropped a message on those platforms in the morning and they never got a reply till evening time, that is not who you want to be with. 

Stop Making Efforts : Relationships is not a do or die affair, sometimes it goes the way nobody planned. What is the effort one of you is doing to make it work? Have you complained about what you want and what is the effort of your man/woman to make it work. If you tell your man/woman what you don't like in the relationship, but they do it comfortably 2 weeks after your complaint, it is a sign they might not be too much into you

A Relationship is all about respect and respect only, there is a degree of fear, a romantic fear that makes it all works out.

Don't Care Even When You Wants Attention: Ladies wants attention and they want it in its full, 100%. Don't deny them of their maximum attention. Don't see this as a way to think they are weak and you can toy with their feelings. No. Give them the attention and make them feel on top of the world, it means a lot to them

Just like ladies, men want attention too, don't make them beg for it, give it to them. They may act like Spartacus or the playboy in your favourite magazine, but the simple truth is, sometimes they want all of you to be just for them and themselves only.




Hi Guys....



My girlfriend(we should marry in few months) decided it is a good time to visit her Ex without me knowing it. I got to know when playing with her phone and I asked her, and she said she was there on a meet and greet purpose only. I said Ok.

             But here I am at the office and I can't get the thought off my head and thinking something happened between them. So please clear my head here...

As an Ex-boyfriend, if your ex-girlfriend decided to pay you a visit, do you think you can do without having fun/touch her?

As a lady, what on earth will make you visit your ex after breakup?

Remember, in his home, not a party or just for some drinks....I am having a bad day, please help....

Doyers::: Please help this young man(we will hide the name and he can read your comments)