Relationship

You go to weddings, and you see the preacher talking about the good and the bad kind of woman. You go to the Internet, and you see people writing about the kind of women you should date or never marry. But in this article, I felt like I should write about the kind  of lady a man should run away from before it ruins such a man. 

A lot of musicians have talked about it; a lot of preachers will preach about it; your parents will warn you about them, but how do you identify them. Because in truth, they are out there, you can't just pick up a lady and start a family unless you're hoping for a divorce after few months. 

Please Note: This is just my opinion as a man, and I am ready to agree or disagree with you via comments  :)

Not A Sister:  Dating a nice woman is one of the best things in life, even the holy books say, " he who finds a good woman finds a good thing." . So if your woman or the lady you dating now is not like your sister, you might be in for the wrong lady which means you have found a bad thing. A sister pampers you; she can see through you when you're down and doesn't assume that you will be fine. She can know what is wrong before you say it, because she spends so much time with you. She wants to go to the end of the earth just to make sure you are happy. She will care for you, gives you the best advice and many more. So if she is not like your sister...Uhmmmm.

Nagging :  <-----This word right there have broken different homes before now, and it will continue to break homes even your kind of lady nags too much. For a man like me, I will pay anything to make sure I am in a peaceful environment. Peaceful home readers, is priceless like my dad will always tell me. 

Now let me be clear. A woman is a woman, #Gofigure. However, a lady who nags will either kill you with hypertension or with worries. Nobody loves nagging...even when a girlfriend nags too much, you just want to pull your hair out of your head, so imagine a family with a parrot kind of lady. Kanye West will say. That is what I don't like. I once read a news online on how a Chinese man falls to his death in a mall because the wife or girlfriend(not so sure) was nagging all through the shopping spree.

Less Care About Your Feelings : A lady that never cares about your feelings, she does not care if you are on the sick bed. Her philosophy is if you want to die, go ahead. She will prefer to go out and party with her other kind of lady or go to the salon to fix her hair before seeing you at the hospital. Try to call your lady and tell her how you want to meet her now and it's so important, she will tell you to go ahead and say it, even if you tell her you need to see her and your life depends on it, she will tell you not to be angry that she needs to go out with friends for some party or go fix up her hair or see some soap opera. Never marry this kind of woman and when you dating them, you need to start seeing Usain Bolt on how to run 100m race because you might need one soon. Your girlfriend/wife must put you first, especially if you both plan on staying together for the rest of your lives.

Doesn't care about your financials :A real woman wants to ask about your financials, especially if you are the  man that always goes to the bar and asks everyone to be served cold drinks. A real woman will always check you out and ask while you are spending like you are the Son Of Bill Gate. The other kind of woman will only tell you what a big man you are and how you make her proud spending that much while her friends are watching. If you are with a lady who always goes out with you because of your spending drift. You might need the Usain Bolt class as well, because when you are dried up financially, she will switch gear, and you will be on your own.

Never pay on dates : Ok, call me cheap, that's fine and a friend of mine here on Doy News still argues with me. But I want to write it any ways.  A lady whom you are still seeing but knows all the expensive restaurants in town is not a good one to me. When you're dating a lady according to my last article  (Why you will remain single).She must always give you the privilege of choosing restaurants especially if she is not paying. Never go on a date with a lady who wants to go on every expensive date when she knows she won't drop a cent. If you are a man that cut your coat according to your cloth, be careful of a lady, who will help you cut undersize or oversize. I have met a lot of ladies like this before, and I have dropped them and probably won't see them again on a date. I am still on my point with my friend here in Doy News Editorial calling me cheap...But this is the word of the elders.

Publicly Disgrace you : Haaaa...Have you ever seen a woman shouting on top of her voice and calling her man names...ouch...I have seen this in malls and parks, and I ask this question. How did he get here? Some ladies are ready to bring down the roof when you annoy them, they will never wait until you get to the car. For a man like me that does not even like a mate talking loud when we close, how would it feel with a lady sounding like "I don't care? I am scared of what my life will become that moment. 

A Flirt: We all have that hormone in us that rises when we see a man playing with our woman, and she is smiling it out. The truth is that jealousy is not a state of mind or how mature you are. It is a norm in both male and female. A 6o years-old man will be jealous when someone is flirting with his 55 years-old woman. So it is what it is. If you are not jealous of your man or woman, it is, either she is very ugly, or you don't love her anyway.

So a lady who flirts so much is what you don't want to play with. She will flirt with men and makes you feel she is dating them, even if she is faithful, you will doubt her faithfulness. We all heard about the fight between  Solange and Jayz recently. According to report reaching me, some lady at the party was flirting so much with Jay-z that Beyonce had to warn her to please back off. When she would not back off and Jay-z seems to be enjoying the whole show. Solange had to add one to his previous 99 problems (No offence to Jay-z fans, am a fan too).

A lady can be beautiful and be a centre of attraction, but she needs to limit who she flirts with especially when you're dating or when you are around. A flirt can be other men singing her praises, and she is blushing...oooucchh...while you are there, that is an insult. It can be physical touching, and she is responding...No. No No Some ladies flirt so much on Facebook or twitter you will feel they are dating the men flirting with them. So if your woman can't contain the attentions, she gets from men. You should quit, because when men flirt with a lady, they don't just want to flirt; it is only a step 1...I have been there, done that

Not Proud of You/Doubts your love : A lot of girls are not proud of their men they date. A larger percentage of ladies believes that until you put a ring on it, they can't announce you to anyone, including their close friends, because they are scared you will leave, and they will look bad with their friends. A lot of girls have been hurt before now, so they are careful about talking to friends or families about who you are. But, at the same time, this should not be an excuse for a lady not to be confident after some time. If your girl always tells how she won't talk about you for a long time, she might not be 100% into you. When girls love you, no matter what happened, a year after or six months depending on how you make her feelings grow, she will start telling everyone who cares about you. 

The social network is also a good form to know if your lady is just playing you, a lady who finds it ok to upload a picture of a man she meets two months after their meeting, and she can use that on profile pics on Facebook , twitter, reddit or everywhere might not be trusting you, which means you should start looking out for a new lady. She must be ready to let the world know the real King, and not uploading different men on her timeline, and keep telling you how lucky you are to have her when you are together. Always use your instint.

Too Many social networks account :With the emerging trend of smart phones and social networks apps and website now, a lot of ladies will always sign up to at least 2-4 social networks. If your girlfriend is constantly receiving beeps from different social network on her phone, like my good friend here say...OH boy, you are single. 

A lady should limit her presence on social networks when she is dating unless she is looking for your substitute.

Liars: A good woman must not lie, no matter what will be the consequences. She must always tell you the truth of a situation. This will not only bolster your love affair but your trust in such a lady. A lying lady is a very dangerous lady you don't want to have in your family. 

Word of the elders

    Anyone who lies conveniently, will kill conveniently.

If you notice your lady lie at every word from her mouth, you need to be careful before a proposal

The Future : A good lady should ask you sometimes what is the plan for the future, where do you want to live your life? Do you want us to buy a house or car first? (A good wife will choose a house over a car anytime). Will you go for your masters program after your degree? How many kids do you want us to have? This and many questions a real wife will ask you. If you date for six months and all, you do is hug, cuddle, go to movies, go to the beach, hiking and laughing...no talks about the future...uhmmm...not a good trait. At least after a year, someone should bring it up, coming from a lady is a stamp and  want to commit to you. !!! Marry her Now !!! .

Remember : This is just a man opinion on the kind of lady you should not start a family with, at least help reduce the marriage breakups.

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For Doy News, I am Patrick Wright

Decided to write this open letter to all the beautiful ladies out there that are single or the ones in a relationship that might be single soon because you think you have reached the peak of your love life with your soul mate and can't spice things up any longer, this post might sound a little judgmental, maybe it will have a second part for the boys in the future...But I promise to make it an interesting read.

You remain single because of your single friends:  A wise man once told me, to make it in life, you don't walk with losers, you walk with people that are successful or about to be one. So if you are keeping the relationship with let's say 5 girls and the whole five are single or only one is in an off and on relationship, you will stay single or you will soon join the full team if you dating..... . Keep this to yourself, 90% of single ladies that claims, am single and I love my life are not telling you the truth. A lady that breaks up 2 weeks will use that statement often, at that moment it's true because she thinks she is free, after 2 weeks, she is just saying it to compensate herself, it's not right. Wait...let me talk more on this....

Walk in your lane and create your path :Now a lot of people don't know this, they watch a lot of Telemundo (Mexican soap opera) or a Korean romantic film, some people watch a lot of romantic movies or attends single ladies seminar by a relationship counsellor. What happens in Las Vegas, stays in Las Vegas. So what happens in those movies are not entirely true, it's just a fiction.. Do you think when Bruno Mars sings " I will catch a grenade for you" you believe he will catch a stone about to hit your head? ... So don't expect the same moves or reactions you see on TV. When you hear an advice or watch a movie, tune those actions to yourself on how making it work for you in your own way.

A lot of girls have a rule so much in their head than the bible and Koran joined together. Example are : On my first date, he must wear a Gucci cap, else I can't go on a second date, He must be able to make me laugh out loud just like Brad Pitt makes Angelina Jolie laugh on Tv. My friend, your single years will be so long if you keep having laws such thoughts, don't let the media or friends deceived you on what to expect on your first date. Just flow with what you have . I won't share my preference so you dont add it to your law, but if i will go out again on a date again, i know just 5 mins when she sits down. It is that easy.I use my instint...Use yours too. Don't keep rules inside your head or use what your friend said..else your single years have just started.

Be a lady on your first date : Maybe just me, but when i go on a date, i love ladies that are calm and not too shy...I also don't like ladies with much adrenaline pumping on our first date like we are old friends having a re-union. Calm down and study your man. A guy ask you, where would you like on a date, some will tell you, Uhmm Gordon Ramsay kitchen. . TThis is so bad especially if you have not been there before, Don't be an opportunist while searching...You don't know if he just wants to have a drink.. You are a glutton, you want to eat first...

I have seen weird faces on real men when they ask a lady out for lunch and they are telling them the most expensive restaurant in town. This are men that can take you there, but they want a more succulent and romantic environment, not for show-offs, but just to know each other...Because such girls go to expensive places to order all items on a menu. At least you just announced to the guy, get my food budget ready if you want to date me. Nobody got the time for you...you will remain single...because you lost a vital point a man looks for in a lady

A Quick Story

I asked a girl where could we meet on our first date, and she said a very expensive restaurant, that is after I said NO to a drinking lounge with $25 for a cup of coffee. I don't want to look so cheap, so I accepted the Chinese restaurant, I have never been there before then, so I was happy to try the Chinese cuisine. I was curious why she was so fast in mentioning this place, and she said she comes there every Friday, so I was like Ohhh, nice, I might need to prepare a new budget(I was saying this in my own thought).

We got down, have a sit, and when the menu was presented, it was in Chinese, I told the guy to get me a nice bottled water, that I was fine, she was like, uhmmm. I like to eat some food; I was like fine...I have my ATM...who cares....So she ordered item 57 and smile, the waiter was like just item 57, she said Yes, that it is all right for me...so I summon the waiter to get item 57 for my new to be girlfriend.

When item 57 arrived, it was a pack of cigarette, .. I was  heavy because I was holding back my laugh, an imported Chinese cigarette, I asked again, are you sure this is what you want? She said Yes, that it is item 57, so as a good guy, I help her to light the first stick, and I was looking at how she is fooling herself...she lied, not my type of lady...I asked the waiter, how much is the cigarette he said 12 dollars a piece, but just 5 on the plate now, so as a good man, I said, bring 10 more  for her...she looked at me, I am sure she is saying some words I cannot write online, but it was a good Sunday for me...hahahhahahahaah

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I have seen many girls pick expensive places over good discussions; I have lost a lot of girls, because when I tell them, can we meet at a park and just walk and talk. I feel its romantic...but such girls never reply...You think you are single. You will be like that, until you start acting like a LADY..

Too Much preference :  This is so much true. Ask girls who are 17-21 who is her ideal boyfriend.

You : If you will date a boyfriend, tell me your preferences

Girl : I like my  boyfriend to be tall,  6ft, broad shoulder, a car,  good job, especially at the oil rig or a doctor.

And I can tell you the lists will keep going on and on.

Now go again and ask a lady from 21-25.

You: If you will date a boyfriend, tell me your preferences

Lady : I need a man with a kind heart, just a good man.

As  you can see the difference in preferences when a girl turns to a lady.

Go ahead and ask a lady of 26-35

You: If you will date a boyfriend, tell me your preferences

Lady : If you date a boyfriend, tell me your preferences.

Lady : (Now she is having wrinkles and the parents on her neck) I just need a man, a man whom we can both start a family together; I don't care about his nationality or age...if he is matured, and he is ready for marriage.

You can see while you will be single if you still hold on to your dreams or list of preferences you had when you were in your twenties.

I will say this again: 90% of your friends that are single are not enjoying it, they only say it's a good life because no guy is coming forth...Be wise.

Greediness :  A lot of positive energy makes a relationship work. It is not easy ladies and gents. I know this, but some girls don't want this. They want to try the next guy or the guy, who is telling them smooth and romantic words on social media. Some are listening to friends who want you to date their friend. I don't understand why a lady above 20 will be listening to her age mate to date a boy he thinks is good for her. If you are 18 years old, and a friend is telling you to have a new boy she is introducing to you, hhahahaha, that might be the worst decision you will make in a long time. I have seen girls come and go because they want to date the next guy who later will treat them as they are nothing after some few months. Don't try the next guy, work hard to keep your guy if he is very good to you, I repeat....

If your current relationship is working fine, don't try the new guy...tell your friends NO, and let the other suitor know you are in love. In fact, start telling your friends and the boy introduced to you how much you love the guy, how you can catch a grenade for him. Tell him you can follow him anywhere...say things that are sweet...He will never disturb you again, because he will be so jealous—

 

Word on the marble.

 

Make Moves : I have heard a lot of stories where a girl will see a single guy, and we tell me how much she wished the guy could ask her out for a date. I always say the same thing, why don't you ask him out first...I know some of the ladies will tell you, that is ridiculous? No, it is not if it makes you happy. However, at the same time be matured while you do it, make sure the guy is matured too. A boy will go on twitter and announce to the whole world; a man will be happy and take it up from there into a relationship. I was once a boy myself...That was a lengthy story though and very long time....

Sometimes making move is the best thing, you don't have to talk... Because a guy is on rolex and gucci does not mean he is man enough  to ask a lady out, some guys out there do have fear in them, but a simple move will make him shaking to the thigh and be like.

uhm uhm uhm...can can can ...sorry i am David...i li li live downtown...yes yes yes...can we go to the mo mo mo movies....

Hahaha....I have been there like I said before, I got my chance later and took it...so ladies help the boy to be a man, if you make a boy to be a man, such love are always strong...so strong...am confident you like it, because you are the first lady, and he want it to be special... like I said make sure whoever you're dealing with is not a boy(dunce), make the move to a boy; you can talk to a man...different things...be clear on that paragraph. If you're smart, am certain you pick my point on that paragraph...its kind of a complicated read. 

Relationship is a good thing when you find the right one, don't cheat on your partners...love yourself. It's not easy for single mums. When they write single mum and loving it. Please never wish for such love. It is so bad. They don't like it too, they just say those things to be happy with themselves...It is so hard. When I mean so hard...it might not be financially, but a lot of things she suffered inside she will never tell you. Don't think because she looks good on Facebook or instagram, she likes it.

Stay positive, be careful of your fake friends, love your boyfriend, and if you don't have one before now...Check what I have told you.hihihi...I am not the best counselor, but you can learn from me because I know what am saying...Subscribe to this website if you like this...You will be the first to receive the part 2 if it comes up soon...Also boys will know why they are still single until now.

Share this post on your social media and always love one another ..... You can agree or disagree with me via a comment below...I will explain and engage you....For Doy News, Patrick Wright.